My daughter, along with all the other little girls in Kindergarten, has been invited to join something called a Daisy troop. This is the kind of life-skill and relationship building activity that shouldn’t totally freak me out, but I’m slightly terrified of any group activity that involves more than two girls. You see, I was once a Brownie.
I can’t remember exactly how I got roped into joining the Brownies. Whiskey was in the Boy Scouts and had all sorts of outdoorsy adventures, but if I had thought I’d be starting fires with Swiss Army knives and tipping cows in the Girl Scouts, I was grossly misled. Brownies, at least the Palo Alto version, consisted of a series of play dates at our den mother’s house while she organized crafts and put on little plays designed to teach us manners and meekness and sewing. And cookie sales. Always with the cookie sales.
It was third grade we’d switched to yet another new school this one with a somewhat more monied demographic. There were a lot of stay at home moms, and there was little these moms found more threatening than single, working mothers who were dismantling the fabric of America and probably trying to steal their husbands. Mom may have stuck me in Brownies to help me make friends at a new school, but as the progeny of a possible harlot, I wasn’t a super popular house guest. To make matters worse, I was an incompetent cookie salesman. I had the uniform, though, so they had to let me through the door. This was all terribly awkward in a way I didn’t fully comprehend, being eight years old and honestly too self involved to catch on that I was being shunned.
But let’s cut to the crazy, shall we? It was an afternoon troop meeting in the gym at school. All the little girls were sitting cross legged in a big circle in our charmingly hideous brown dresses, wondering what activity from the Brownie hand book we were going to do. Troop Mom, Mrs. Robbins, had her own pigtailed daughter run and fetch a big platter of chocolates that they had made together the evening before.
My eyes lit up. CHOCOLATE!? Maybe this meeting wouldn’t be made of suck after all! The platter began making its way around the room. There were two dozen small, milk chocolates, and just four or five larger, dark mounds like truffles. As the platter was passed, each little girl took a small chocolate. I was pretty stoked that, when the platter met me halfway around the circle, it still had all of the big chocolates on it. What kind of dumb kid takes a small chocolate, I thought, gleefully helping myself to a truffle and then holding it politely in my lap as I’d been instructed. The chubby girl took a truffle as well, but she was the only other one. This probably should have struck me as suspicious.
Mrs. Robbins said Grace and we all lifted our chocolates to our lips as one. I bit through the thin crust of dark chocolate and into a golf ball sized wad of hair. Fucking HAIR. Stringy, scratchy, dirty blonde and brown and gray hair from the family’s brushes, twisted up into balls and dipped in chocolate. I’m pretty sure, even in those days of lax school nutritional guidelines, human hair wasn’t considered an appropriate food stuff. In that moment of disgust and confusion, Mrs. Robbins went into a smug lecture on greed for the entire class. She quoted the bible. A lot. All the little girls with their milk chocolate discs, who’d obviously been warned ahead of time by their moms or Mrs. Robbin’s bitchy little clone, finished their treats with pleased little smiles. The chubby girl started to cry. As well she should, as we were obviously terrible human beings. Oh, the shame of it all. Now let’s all sing the Brownie song of friendship and do a craft with the empty milk cartons we’d saved from lunch.
I’m not saying I throw the best play dates ever, but I can say with authority that I’ve never purposefully fed hair to anyone’s offspring. I mean, if I’m going to psychologically scar small children for life, I prefer instilling irrational fear to shame, but that’s just how I was raised.
I honestly wish I could go back in time, hold that woman down, and stuff her face with the remaining hair truffles. Instead, I quit Brownies and never looked back. Except in therapy. Which I also started that year. For anger management, or something.
Meanwhile as I was gagging on hair, one of Whiskey’s boyscout friends was probably molested by a scout master in his troop. Whiskey says even at 11 he thought that being invited to watch porn and drink beer at the man’s house was odd; his friend Tim didn’t. Tim is doing hard time, but that’s probably also a total coincidence.
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Ho lee sheeit! My daughter is in Brownies, and woe be to the bitch who tries anything like that!
Our (original) daisy troop leader didn’t do anything of value, then absconded with all the girls’ cookie money 😦
Damn, that’s messed up! If I had told my mom, the gauntlet would have been thrown, for sure. It’s crazy the things kids just keep to themselves, to stew over for years and then write blogs about.
I dread the thought of Allie doing any if that scouting stuff. I was a cookie peddler for 3 years and I don’t remember being happy memories. Plus all the money gets used to decorate their ceo’s posh NY office.
Well, all the money those psycho den mamas don’t steal, apparently!
That is so, so scary and I am not going to lie… I felt kinda ill! What an evil b*tch!
See I was a lovely child unless you messed with me or my brothers, if you picked on us then it was game on. I was a pretty vengeful little thing haha. Once a kid was attacking my brother on the bus, I grabbed his backpack and swung him off. Unfortunately he swung into one of those upright metal poles and smashed his nose and front tooth. I never got into trouble so I am guessing he didn’t want his parents to find out he was bashing up a 7 year old and instead said he fell.
I probably would have given her kids chapsticks as a gift, replacing the actual stick with rogaine. If I got caught I would have prepared a speech about teaching her a lesson on vanity 🙂 I guess I am somewhat evil too haha
I put a kid in a locker for MILK once…
Hmmmm, I wonder where that evil woman’s kid is at now? Think she is a priceless princess?
No doubt! Or a serial killer. One of those things.
I was traumatized just reading this! That’s awful. I probably wouldn’t have ever eaten chocolate again.. Hmm I wonder if that works on adults…
Wow, that’s a terrible thing to do – both to children and to chocolate! I’m glad my experience as a Brownie wasn’t that traumatic. For some reason, we had to page through magazines and cut out pictures of pretty things to paste into scrapbooks which were then given to “less-fortunate” children. Seriously – as if pictures of things they couldn’t afford would make them feel better. Why couldn’t we rather use those “how to sew on a button” sessions to actually make the poor kids toys they could play with instead? I didn’t last long as a Brownie either…
That is hysterically wrong. Clearly we both learned important lessons in Brownies, just not the ones they were trying to teach us.
I was kicked out of Brownie’s – hate that freak show scene.
Jesus! Is that kind of thing happen a lot in the Brownies over there? That is so fucked up. Who let a selfrighteous cow like that be in charge of a group of impressionable young girls!? Malicious, spiteful… I am chock full of impotent outrage on behalf of your 8 year old self, being victimised like that!
Horrified. I would have taught that woman a lesson in ass-whooping had she done that to one of my children. For the love of violence, I don’t know how I would’ve managed to stay out of prison on that one!
My dad called as soon as he read this one, saying the same thing! At the time, I never told a soul because I thought I was the one who had done something wrong. I wasn’t about to tell my mom I’d been greedy at a scout meeting! Which is such a shame, as it would have been awesome to see my parents go medieval on that lady’s ass. 😛
Yes! It’s scary how a child’s mind works. Makes me wonder what’s going on in my own kid’s heads. I saw my dad go off on another adult once in defense of us and it was pure awesome sauce.